Growing up as children in the world of adults, we all made certain survival adaptations to be liked and admired by those around us. This was our way to ensure that we are loved. Some of us learned to manipulate our inner world of feelings and thoughts to be liked by others. (So, this like-me syndrome is much older than Facebook.) These adaptations had some function growing up. It helped us ‘win’ the approval and conditional affection of those around us. However, it also made us dependent on the external world for our self-esteem, confidence, and validation. Basically, we learned to become powerless. We learned to systematically give away our power to the outside world.
Does this ring an echo with you?
Do you feel nervous when saying a ‘No’ to someone?
Do you often say ‘Maybe’ instead of a clear No?
Do you tend to share your opinions only when they don’t contradict others?
Do you choose vagueness over unapologetic clarity?
Do you often apologize without any rhyme or reason?
Do you feel alert and unable to relax around others?
If you answered ‘Yes’ to most of these questions then, it means that you have learned to wear masks to fit in.
This can also be understood as a people-pleasing syndrome or the good-girl or good-boy syndrome. You know what? This comes at a very heavy cost. The cost is self-disconnection.
What does self-disconnection do to us? It makes us confused about our inner reality. The fear of being disliked by others makes us tune out from our inner world of needs and feelings. As a result, we find it very hard to make important choices around careers, relationships, and finances without having external approval. Do you relate? Well, this is a summary of many lives (including mine)!
So, you are not alone here. I promise 😉
In this course, you receive two videos:
- The Bonus Video is titled: ‘How to Connect with you Yourself‘ This is a direct response to the challenge of self-disconnection.
- In the Authenticity masterclass, I bring to you 3 simple steps on ‘How to Be Authentic‘.
These offerings come from my own experience as a highly sensitive individual learning to grow up in a very interesting hyper-masculine external framework of Northern India. And, with over 10 years of experience in the field of emotional well-being as the founder of Perfect Life Spot and a leading expert in the field of emotional health and mindfulness.